Black Girls Travel Therapy

What every woman needs to know: 1. Don't allow your girl to do too much. If a man is treating her less than a queen. Inform her, she'll get mad, but she'll love you in the end. 2. Give your girl fashion feedback. If she looks a mess tell her in a nice way and offer a solution. 3. Inform any woman if her hygiene isn't at 100. That includes breath & body odor. Again, she may get angry, but she'll appreciate you later. 4. Push the divas in your circle to exercise with you. Why? It's healthy and everyone should ... look good and fit. 5. Support your girls no matter what. Never allow a man to belittle them in your presence or in private. Speak up & protect your fellow queens. 6. If a woman is intoxicated and moving too free, make her have a seat. She'll thank you in the morning, no one wants to give those goodies away on the 1st drunk night. 7. If a man is trying to date several women in your crew, you have the duty to tell. He needs to have re...

The Love I took for granted. I thought it would always be around. I allowed my ego to inflate, interchanging kindness for lust. Refusing to give love, selfishly pleasing myself instead of taking time to love back. The Love I took for granted. The Love I took for granted. Now that it's gone, I miss it. I foolishly thought it would stick around. It warned me, but I was sitting on my throne refusing to believe that anyone would leave me. The Love I took for granted. The Love I took for granted. I treated it bad. I showed no respect. I was too afraid to be vulnerable. Too worried about my macho image, wanting no one to see me love. The Love I took for granted. The Love I took for granted. Why did I fall asleep on it? Why didn't I cherish it? It loved me unconditionally. It made me smile. It was a crazy love, I have to admit, but now that its gone I miss it. The Love I took for granted. Appreciate the unique Love in your life. Listen to their needs, wants, and desires. Le...

Love is patient. Love is kind. Love is happy. Love is forgiving. Love is soothing. Love feels good. Love is free. Love heals the world. When you give love, you receive love. Relationships are true reflections of you. Take a look at your behavior, if you are not acting out of love you'll see it. Learn to love, love unselfishly, love unconditionally, love even when it doesn't feel good. Everyone needs love, and some need more than others. As you grow you can ignore negativity and love regardless. If you only give love, it has to return to you. Don't spend the rest of your life treating others bad because they treated you bad or attempting to hurt someone because they hurt you. Stand up and show love. Heal the world with love... ~Karlyn LeBlanc. www.lovelemenu.com  

How do you feel when you slide into a nice pair of high heels? Your shoes are empowering. You're standing tall, your legs look amazing, your outfit pops, and you feel sexy. Fancy shoes give you that extra boost of energy as you sway and prance about. You look good and yes, you feel good. A great big smile plasters your face as you showcase that awesome woman called you. Those heels work your calves and they add major class to anything you put on your body. Hasn't he told you to take everything off except the heels? Well, yes, sexy heels are a worthy investment, because they don't care if you gained or loss too much weight. Those babies look good no matter what. So when you go shopping for your next pair of shoes, select a very high heel, something sexy, nice, expensive, and fit for a queen.

The Louisiana chapter of Dinner with Divas met in Gonzales, Louisiana at Mike Anderson's on Saturday December 3, 2017. The theme was a winter wonderland, encouraging women to come out in their all white attire. Each meeting usually has a theme attached to it, which gives the gathering a special twist, a commonality, a thought, or a unique spin. At the end of the day, women will be women. "I can't find white. I'm too big for white," were some of the concerns voiced by our members. Therefore, the color red was added at the last minute. As you can see, our Louisiana president, Ciarra Bell, was one of the ladies who elected to wear the color red. I always say if you decide to go against the majority make sure you're clean, on point, flawless, and camera ready. Well, Miss Bell did that, her make-up, hair, shoes, and dress screamed super model Not only was she stunning in every aspect of the word, but also nailed the surprise pho...

  Karlyn LeBlanc You saw me happy. Happiness you just couldn't stand. You thought you were the source of my happiness, but to your surprise you were not. Only I can make me happy. You see, I love me. I love me from head to toe, inside and out. When I look in the mirror I smile. Only I can make me happy. Dont fret, you'll find someone else's happiness to control, but not mine. I'm free from you, and free from the world's definition of happiness. I do the things that bring me true joy. I live in the moment with no regrets. And if it doesn't feel good to me, I don't partake in it. You see, its all about me. Only I can make me happy. My happiness is here to stay, so if you're waiting for it to leave, you might as well go away. I changed the way I think, changed the things I say, changed the material I read, and changed the people I surround myself with. I have a true, positive, transformation with a new outlook on life. You see, I love...

Do you want to re-create you? Re-invent you? Make you over? Well, its time for change. Everyday we look in the mirror and we complain about the person who stands before us. I'm too short... I'm too tall...I'm too stout...I'm too skinny...my nose is too big...my thighs jiggle.. I have three stomachs...my hair is a mess...my skin is blemished...I'm too dark...I'm too light...and I'm not pretty or handsome, are amongst the many self criticizing statements made daily. Let me be the first to challenge you to change your way of thinking. The first step is to be happy with who you are. Start by loving the things you hate. Stand in the mirror naked, and kiss your flaws goodbye. Replace your negative remarks with positive uplifting affirmations. For example, instead of saying, "I'm fat," state, "I'm the most sexy, voluptuous woman alive." You've got to do the work from inside. When you change your perception of you everyt...

  Grab your ankles! Take a wild picture! Move to another city! Cut your hair off! Get a weave! Lose weight! Start your own business! The time has come for you to make a positive change in your life. Look at your career? Is it fulfilling? Working a full-time job takes up most of our day; therefore it should be a task we love. Don’t you want to do something you enjoy? We allow our dreams, passions, desires, talents, gifts, and goals to disappear due to fear, failure, and change. Life is change; fear and failure is of the devil. Invite change in with a smile. Don’t worry about money and “is this the right moment”. Every minute you spend miserable in your career is time wasted. Time you could’ve spent building your own company. Does your job give you the income and opportunity to work on your dreams? If it doesn’t you need to select a career that does. Careers should be lucrative, fun, flexible, and rewarding. These rewards come in the form of giving back and making a diffe...

  Never have sex in vain, be very selective of what you allow in your soul. The act of making love is a spiritual connection; a manifestation of greatness. Sex is magnetic energy to create the desires of your heart. Be on one accord with your sexual partner and make something powerful:   The great things I pour into myself I wish for you to devour. Together, we can create magnificent things; our souls enthralled in fiery vibrations conjuring up the desires of our hearts.   My king, I long to build you up and heal your wounds the world created.  Let's erase all failures and fears. In my arms you're all man; strong, courageous, successful, worthy, and confident. Coexist with me, drop all your inhibitions, experience this life happy, free, and wealthy.   The next time you make love, make a conscious attempt to conjure up positive energy. Your body is a precious temple that deserves only the best, never have sex in vain.  ...

I grabbed hold of the cold steel bars and I looked out. "I want to be FREE!" I screamed. "I've been locked up for too long." I imprisoned myself at a young age. Went from one ruler to another. And now it's time for me to go. I can't stand being controlled. "I want to be FREE!" There are so many places to see, so many things I could be. "I want to be FREE!" I screamed. "I've been locked up for too long." I don't want anyone telling me what to do or where to go. I'm my own person, a grown-up, not a child. I'm not your property. "I want to be FREE!" This fool is parenting me. Telling me what to wear and how to do my hair. "I want to be FREE!" I screamed. "I've been locked up for too long." What contract did I sign? I don't remember the big "X" by the black line. I graduated from high school and went straight to a cell. Am I living my life in hell?...

Have you ever seen something and wanted it? Did that image run around in your mind daily? Thoughts of tasting it, smelling it, visions of you with it. You spoke of it, you saw it and viola it became yours. I'm here to tell you, you can have anything and anyone you desire. Some call it faith, others call it law of attraction; I think it's both. The world is here for us to create a happy life; cast out negativity and focus on something great, don't take no for an answer. When you manifest positive energy only good can enter. Think on a surface level, very shallow, not digging too deep or over analyzing; simply welcome your desires. Be confident that your wishes will be granted as if a magician with a wand is making them appear. Open your heart, unleash your soul, never fight the magnetic vibes that are formulating your masterpiece. Stand on one accord believing all will be well and finally knowing everything works out in...

I am a black woman who's proud of my roots. I love my curves, my big legs, and my huge bottom that I inherited from my paternal grandmother, Thelma Robinson. However, it appears I can't wear what smaller women wear, because of my curves I'm restricted. When I put something on that hugs my body I get stares from men and women often roll their eyes. I find it interesting that this has always been a problem for full-figured women. Did you know that Mahalia Jackson was forced to put on a choir robe to sing in the church? The congregation whispered and gossiped about the way her body gyrated as she sang praises to the Lord. What a shame, a full-figured women of God had to be draped to hide her voluptuous shape. I remember many years ago, when I was a Freshmen in college, I had on a nice fitted sun dress and my maternal grandmother stated, "you look like a hooker." I quickly replied, all the white girls at school...

Let's think about the lyrics in, "I'm Every Woman," a song sang by Whitney Houston. "Whatever you want, whatever you need Anything you want done, baby, I'll do it naturally 'Cause I'm every woman (every woman) It's all in me, it's all in me, yeah!" The lyrics suggest that women can do it all with no problems. We know the vessel called female is pertinent to life, her body is used to nurture, protect, produce, and love. She is the glue that holds the family together. However, when a woman is broken, things around her fall apart. It's vital for the female to take care of herself, she's similar to the engine of a car, without her nothing will run. Just like that engine needs routine oil changes and maintenance so does she. In fact, recent studies show women suffer more mental health issues than men due to the stress of juggling their career, family, and other leadership roles. In the midst of being every woman, she forgets a...

A feeling is just that, a feeling, you don't have to digest it. You have the ability to change your current situation into a pleasurable emotion. Negativity masked as jealousy and envy is thrown at us all day everyday and it will never stop. Why should you catch it and swallow it? If you continue to devour bad things you'll reek despair, disappointment, weakness, sadness, and ultimately feel like a huge failure.    If you want to be happy it's time to rebuke all the toxins inside your body. Eliminate the negativity, don't consume it. Take your power back and walk around free from pain. Don't take on the problems of others; learn to keep your mouth closed and your back turned. Those bad calories they possess will load you down and destroy you. Choose peace and incorporate greatness. Say no to the bad and yes to the good. Remember, you are in control of you, be the positive change agent in your life. Rebuke a...

I'm wearing all of these clothes, still worrying about what they might say about me. When all I really want to do is be FREE. I hold all my curse words in because I really don't want to offend. When all I really want to do is be FREE. My life is mundane. I go to work, pick up the kids, go home, cook, and go to sleep. When all I really want to do is be FREE. People depend on me to do everything. When all I really want to do is be FREE. I see others experiencing new, fun things, while I sit watching and judging behind the scenes. When all I really want to do is be FREE. The news, negative spirits, peers, and parents keep me living in fear. When all I really want to do is be FREE. I live in a house with a white picket fence. I have rules, morals, and an image to keep. When all I really want to do is be FREE. Lust is real. Life is not perfect and no one can ever be. Hello world. I'm forty. I'm fabulous. I'm FREE. Don't wai...

Have you looked at the trees lately? I walk daily, but I never paid attention to the trees until I started my journey on gratitude. Appreciation for nature and the things around you are crucial in finding true happiness. When you truly love yourself you are grateful for you and everything in your circle; nature appears brand new. The simple things in life like singing birds, green grass, and trees catch your eye. I watched the wind blow through the branches on a unique tree with few leaves and I thought to myself, "how beautiful." Then I noticed the tree planted next to the first one I observed. It was the same tree but it was shorter. The next tree was taller and the leaves were fuller. We are like trees. All of us are the same beautiful specie, but different. Love yourself and respect the unique qualities you possess. Appreciate nature. Appreciate life. Appreciate the uniqueness that you bring. Love yourself. ~Karlyn LeBlanc www.LoveLeMenu.com

Another part of gratitude is giving. When you can give without expecting anything in return you are truly displaying gratitude. When you give it comes back to you, your blessings triple. Try doing some of these simple acts of kindness: 1)Pay for someones meal at McDonald's. 2)Leave a huge tip after dinner. 3)Hold the door open for a stranger. 4)Give compliments. 5)Smile and offer comforting words. 6)Pay the toll for a stranger behind you in line. 7)Pay for someones groceries. 8)Buy lunch for a friend or stranger. 9)Send someone a drink. 10)Buy a friend their favorite candy bar or chips. 11)Tell everyone you appreciate them and incorporate thanking individuals in advance. Implement gratitude in your life and watch success implant itself on you. Happy Thanksgiving! ~Karlyn LeBlanc

Why do I allow my negative emotions to get the best of me? Sometimes its best to just chill (sit back, relax, and process my thoughts). When a person rattles your spirit they win. Getting angry, lashing out, arguing, and stewing in misery does nothing for you. However, it gives the other person an inflated ego. They instantly know where your thoughts, obsessions, desires, and loyalty lay. You're basically allowing them to puppeteer you and steal your joy. One may also see being emotional as a sign of weakness. And if its displayed at the wrong time it very well may be. Do card dealers allow you to see their cards? No, it's a mystery. And you must remain that way too. Never show your cards. Keep your emotions in your pocket and release them in private. Learn to control what comes out of your mouth. Put on your poker face. Smile, play it cool, and choose to be happy.     Karlyn LeBlanc 

Don't miss Love Le Menu "I love me" retreat in Annapolis, Maryland on April 10th-12th. Meet Angela Young one of our featured speakers: Angela D. Young has been a poet since she was fifteen years old. Born and raised in Dallas, Texas, in a supportive family with whom she is still close, Young went on to graduate from Clark Atlanta University with a bachelor’s degree in mass media arts, concentrated in TV, radio, and film. She was immediately offered a job working as a manager at a renowned studio.   The passion that drives Young is her desire to work with and empower young women, and over the years she has performed at various conferences, pageants, and talent shows in order to do so. Now she offers Pieces of Me, a book of inspirational poetry. Included in the collection is her poem “What Went Wrong,” which won the prestigious Editor’s Choice Award from Poetry.com. Reading poetry opens us up in a unique way. A poem on grief may remind us of our own sorrows; a po...

It appears younger women are loving on men 40 and older. Let's find out why... 1.  An older man believes in Wining and Dining his mate: He takes her to fine restaurants with great ambience and exotic foods. He exposes her to new and exciting things and places. 2.  He's such a Gentleman : He compliments her. Pulls out her chair. Opens the car door. Says please and thank you. 3.  The Money . He spoils her with gifts. Pays the bills. Puts money in her pocket. 4.  Stability: He owns property. Has money in the bank. He's grounded. Great credit. Knows what he wants and stands firm. He's established. Has a foundation. 5.   The Father Figure: Role model. Gives direction. Wisdom. Nurturing. Provides Structure. Protects. Smart. 6.   The Passion: He kisses. Whispers sweet nothings. Drives her crazy with foreplay. Thrills her. Displays sincerity. Tunes into her likes and desires. 7.  Mature: Knowledgeable. Wise. V...