Black Girls Travel Therapy

Do you want to re-create you? Re-invent you? Make you over? Well, its time for change. Everyday we look in the mirror and we complain about the person who stands before us. I'm too short... I'm too tall...I'm too stout...I'm too skinny...my nose is too big...my thighs jiggle.. I have three stomachs...my hair is a mess...my skin is blemished...I'm too dark...I'm too light...and I'm not pretty or handsome, are amongst the many self criticizing statements made daily. Let me be the first to challenge you to change your way of thinking. The first step is to be happy with who you are. Start by loving the things you hate. Stand in the mirror naked, and kiss your flaws goodbye. Replace your negative remarks with positive uplifting affirmations. For example, instead of saying, "I'm fat," state, "I'm the most sexy, voluptuous woman alive." You've got to do the work from inside. When you change your perception of you everyt...

  Grab your ankles! Take a wild picture! Move to another city! Cut your hair off! Get a weave! Lose weight! Start your own business! The time has come for you to make a positive change in your life. Look at your career? Is it fulfilling? Working a full-time job takes up most of our day; therefore it should be a task we love. Don’t you want to do something you enjoy? We allow our dreams, passions, desires, talents, gifts, and goals to disappear due to fear, failure, and change. Life is change; fear and failure is of the devil. Invite change in with a smile. Don’t worry about money and “is this the right moment”. Every minute you spend miserable in your career is time wasted. Time you could’ve spent building your own company. Does your job give you the income and opportunity to work on your dreams? If it doesn’t you need to select a career that does. Careers should be lucrative, fun, flexible, and rewarding. These rewards come in the form of giving back and making a diffe...

Let's think about the lyrics in, "I'm Every Woman," a song sang by Whitney Houston. "Whatever you want, whatever you need Anything you want done, baby, I'll do it naturally 'Cause I'm every woman (every woman) It's all in me, it's all in me, yeah!" The lyrics suggest that women can do it all with no problems. We know the vessel called female is pertinent to life, her body is used to nurture, protect, produce, and love. She is the glue that holds the family together. However, when a woman is broken, things around her fall apart. It's vital for the female to take care of herself, she's similar to the engine of a car, without her nothing will run. Just like that engine needs routine oil changes and maintenance so does she. In fact, recent studies show women suffer more mental health issues than men due to the stress of juggling their career, family, and other leadership roles. In the midst of being every woman, she forgets a...

In memory of Karl Denton Robinson July 5, 1941 to February 10, 2015   How can I be sad when You blessed me with 25 more years with him? They said it was stage 4, terminal, the end, but You said different.   How can I be sad when You gave him time to turn his life around? You gave him a new life. A new look. A brighter future.   How can I be sad when You allowed him to be a wonderful grandfather to my kids? A man my son looked up to. A paw-paw to my daughter. The good guy who always greeted them with gifts and a smile.   How can I be sad when the cancer came back? They gave him 4 months to live, terminal the end, but You said different.   How can I be sad when you gave me 7 years to mourn the death of my niece before You took him away? You didn't give me more than I could handle, You allowed me to grieve and heal.    How can I be sad? I'm thankful. I'm appreciative. I'm hap...

A feeling is just that, a feeling, you don't have to digest it. You have the ability to change your current situation into a pleasurable emotion. Negativity masked as jealousy and envy is thrown at us all day everyday and it will never stop. Why should you catch it and swallow it? If you continue to devour bad things you'll reek despair, disappointment, weakness, sadness, and ultimately feel like a huge failure.    If you want to be happy it's time to rebuke all the toxins inside your body. Eliminate the negativity, don't consume it. Take your power back and walk around free from pain. Don't take on the problems of others; learn to keep your mouth closed and your back turned. Those bad calories they possess will load you down and destroy you. Choose peace and incorporate greatness. Say no to the bad and yes to the good. Remember, you are in control of you, be the positive change agent in your life. Rebuke a...

Is fear whipping your ass like a wind storm? Are you hiding behind fear? Is fear a shield stopping you from greatness or is it a brick wall keeping you away from happiness. An obstacle puts a temporary halt on everything until we figure out how to get around, over, or knock it down. This thing called fear lingers around making our lives miserable, we're a hostage to it. So I ask you, what's the worst thing that could happen if you didn't have fear? If fear didn't exist what would you do? Fear is bondage; it keeps us locked up from the free world. It's like a leather whip lashing us to stay away from success; a chain around our ankles, hands, and  necks restraining us from our true destiny. Fear is black tape plastered on our mouths filtering our words, taking away our freedom to speak. Fear is of the devil, it's evil, negative, dark, and angry; we tip toe around it scared and intimidated. Fear makes us weak. It pushe...

Why do I allow my negative emotions to get the best of me? Sometimes its best to just chill (sit back, relax, and process my thoughts). When a person rattles your spirit they win. Getting angry, lashing out, arguing, and stewing in misery does nothing for you. However, it gives the other person an inflated ego. They instantly know where your thoughts, obsessions, desires, and loyalty lay. You're basically allowing them to puppeteer you and steal your joy. One may also see being emotional as a sign of weakness. And if its displayed at the wrong time it very well may be. Do card dealers allow you to see their cards? No, it's a mystery. And you must remain that way too. Never show your cards. Keep your emotions in your pocket and release them in private. Learn to control what comes out of your mouth. Put on your poker face. Smile, play it cool, and choose to be happy.     Karlyn LeBlanc